The New Don't Blame Mother : Mending the Mother-Daughter Relationship
Paula J CaplanTitle......Page 4
Contents......Page 5
Preface to The New Don't Blame Mother......Page 10
Acknowledgments......Page 28
Getting Started......Page 32
Such Love, Such Rage......Page 48
Mother-Blaming......Page 68
Mother Daughter Barriers: The Perfect Mother Myths......Page 99
The Bad Mother Myths......Page 127
Feeling Safe: Going Beyond the Myths......Page 170
Mending the Relationship......Page 189
What Mothers and Daughters Have Done......Page 220
It Is Only a Door......Page 251
Expressive Training......Page 260
Guidelines for Mother Daughter Interviews......Page 263
Notes......Page 266
Bibliography......Page 282
Index......Page 310
About the Author......Page 320
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